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Peek a Boo…. I see Joy

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IMG-20191220-WA0010Some days seem really bleak, nothing seems to add up. Bills are unpaid, debts are piling up, bosses are going down so hard on you, your spouse does not seem to understand you, your dreams just don’t ever seem to see the light of day; in short, if you could describe life in one statement, you would simply say LIFE IS HARD.
When such seasons come, the days seem unduly long and the night does not give the comfort and rest it should. Everything seems thick and overwhelming, almost unbearable and you just can’t seem to see a way out, because you are so blinded by the weight of your predicament.
This was my situation a short while back. I was weighed down by a lot of unanswered questions, pressures and ultimatums staring me in the face. The thoughts and questions did not seem to be good enough to be shared in a conversation between any friend or sister or comrade; I couldn’t discuss with anyone. I knew it was a phase, but I could not shrug off how I felt about the whole scenario. I thought it best to carry this to God but could not seem to find strength to approach the mercy seat. I struggled to pray about my worries or cast my cares on God, so, I bent under the weight of my pains.
Deep down within me, I knew that God held my answers; I knew that I could trust Him to lift my burdens and set me entirely free. But the challenge remained that I had no strength to pray or call on him; I was practically gasping for breath, spiritually.
One day, after feeling so downcast at work, I realized I could not hold it together much longer. I decided I had to leave the office and find some respite for my soul in solitude. I left the office and headed straight home, knowing that the house would be quiet at that time of the day. I got home and locked myself up in the room. I still didn’t have strength to pray out loud, but I invited God into my thoughts and practically prayed in my mind. I asked for strength to pull through, gisted God afresh of all that was bothering me and laid it all bare with refreshing music playing in the background
Nothing really changed immediately, but I felt safe and somewhat understood. I glanced around the room as I lay on the bed and allowed my thoughts to stray. As I glanced around the room, my eyes rested on the window blinds in the room, and all I saw was how dusty it was. I was agitated, how did so much dust settle on the blinds in a room that I sleep in. I was beginning to get worked up; ready to add it to my list of worries again, then I drew closer to the blinds to examine it.
The window blinds were dusty indeed but right there in the dust on the window blinds lay the fingerprints of my two year old daughter. I saw her five fingers, boldly imprinted on the dusty blinds and my mouth curved into a smile; I had just seen the cutest thing ever, in the midst of my agitation. My Spirit soared to the highest heavens and like a veil, darkness and gloominess was lifted. My focus shifted from whatever my worries had previously been, to the precious gift that my daughter is. I imagined the extreme play that she was involved in that led her to leave her fingerprints on the window blinds. My heart welled up in thanksgiving for her life and all the joy that she has brought in so far.
Something had shifted within me; the fingerprints led me to a place of gratitude in my heart. My gaze moved from everything that was not working to the precious gifts I had received freely from the Father. As I flowed forth with thanksgiving from my heart to God, Joy welled up on my inside and I was immediately fortified with strength; I gained perspective, and everything that seemed larger than life lost its power over me and faded away.
As you go through those days that seem too dark for you to handle, I pray you find the key that unlocks the joy that will strengthen you through that phase.
May you find fingerprints in the dust, and may your eyes recognize same.
Sometimes, joy is hidden in the haze of confusing situations, resolve to find it regardless of how you feel.
Writer : Funmi Owo

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DEALINGS WITH IRRITATIONS IN MARRIAGE

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Falling in love is euphoric; you are constantly happy and excited at the thought of seeing your partner. You do things that you wouldn’t normally do, feel things you don’t normally feel and you are so happy sometimes, you just cry.

Haaa, the sweet beginning of love. When patience and kindness came so easily.

First comes love, then marriage.

Initially in marriage, you are so excited to be with this awesome human being; and as the case is when you fall, you eventually get up. The bloom starts to wear off.

You begin to settle into a life together, become so used to each other and being so caught in your everyday lives; you get comfortable enough to be your true self every time.
Unfortunately, this discovery of your true selves can be quite irritating at times. Those habits that you used to love from a distance are really annoying when it’s close-up. You begin to notice sloppy table manners, bad fashion sense, illogical reasoning.

You know that famous line of “irreconcilable differences”, I believe it’s a vicious cycle that starts from unresolved irritations. When this is not nipped in the bud, you keep getting triggered faster by future irritating and annoying situations.

You can start the process of ending this vicious cycle using the following 6 ways:

Accept responsibility for your part in the cycle. This is not a blame game because you are not responsible for how your partner acts but you are responsible for the response you give to those “irritating habits”. What you see as annoying might just be inconsequential to your partner simply because it was the norm in his own family when he was growing up. And when you “explode” over it, he sees you as being irrational and wonders what the fuss is all about.

Talk to your partner to understand the reason why. Like I said earlier, your partner might see nothing wrong in his actions and in actual fact, it is really how you see it that is causing the issue. Now if it is a universally accepted bad behaviour, talk to your husband to know why he acts like this. We are Christians and the Bible tells us in Galatians 6:2 “to bear one another’s burdens”.

Is it something you can overlook? In the grand scheme of things, would talking loudly at parties make God fall off His throne or throw the earth out of orbit? The truth is when you constantly complain about your husband’s behaviour to him, you have become annoying too, and this too adds to the problems and makes your marriage look like a war zone.

Instead of criticism, practice humility. When you complain and criticise frequently, it says more about you than it does your husband. When you start getting irritated, pause and take a look at yourself. Am I taking my husband’s behaviour personal? Is my husband really that bad? When was the last time my husband nagged me over a bad habit I know I have?
We are all work-in-progress and being graceful would go a long way.

Remember that your husband is not your enemy. Your job (together with your husband) is to establish God’s kingdom on the earth; that won’t be possible if you are always at loggerheads and you are going through life guided by how you feel.
Take time out, consecrate yourself to God and meditate on what it means to be one.

Continue to fellowship with the Holy Spirit, so that the fruit of the Spirit will be evident in your life. I believe that we can only reach the height of our potential in all of life’s endeavours when we allow the Holy Spirit to flow through us unhindered.

Writer: Olamide Adeyemi

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It’s better now

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Mum: “Susan, please get my pink shoes for me from the wardrobe”

Susan: (No response, just playing with her computer)

Mum: “Susan, I will switch off that computer if you don’t bring me the slippers now”.

Susan ( still no response, just engrossed in her game)

(FINALLY mum stood up and went to get the slippers herself, grumbling)

Mum: *”This Susan is just too stubborn”*

*”she does not listen to me”.*

*”I have been calling her without any response”*

*”What kind of child is she?”*

If you are a mum, or a child (as I am certain we all have been), this scenario may be familiar to you. Mothers give instructions, rules and orders, and when our children fail to obey these instructions, rules and orders immediately or fully, we are quick to tell our children about the consequences of their disobedience but NEVER FIRM ENOUGH TO IMPLEMENT THEM.

This is mainly because we are quick to speak without thinking through what we say.

When this happens a few times, our children become aware that those words are empty threats. And that we would likely not do what we say.

Our lack of firmness in following through with consequences of disobedience with our children have far-reaching effects. You may not have understood that by doing so, you are raising children who believe there are no consequences for bad behaviour – they can always get away with their bad behavior. Such mind-set and behavior can grow out of control with dangerous repercussions if not properly checked.

The good news here is that God has given us a privilege to be parents of our children and not a hireling. As parents, mothers especially, we have been graced with a rare uniqueness to build up our children into living monuments. We have been provided a blueprint to help navigate the building process through God’s Word and the Holy Spirit.

There is a popular saying: *Life is in stages and men are in sizes* Children right from the womb go through different stages of development and it is only right for us as mothers to become aware of these different developmental stages and dish out the appropriate training and discipline needed by the child.

What we find in today’s world is that parents have lost sight of the blueprint – children are becoming parents to their Dad and Mom instead of the other way round. They throw tantrums, they decide how, when, where and with whom they want things to be done.

WATCH OUT, MOM! While it is true that at some stage of a child’s life, they should be given some level of freedom, it is important for you to know WHEN AND HOW this freedom should be given.

It’s better now for all mothers to be INTENTIONAL in the way they raise up their kids using the blue print God has given to us.

Nobody has the blue print for *your own children except their Creator.* Spend time in prayer for each of your children and be INTENTIONAL in figuring out how best to raise them to be champions for Christ. Let us stop the excuses and become INTENTIONAL for they are our INHERITANCE.

*How can we do this now?*

Be what you want in your child. You are the first teacher, the first example and the first rolemodel for your child.

Ask their Father; the Creator the right questions.Seek his guidance concerning each child.

Learn from parenting examples around you ( both failed or successful examples).

Be INTENTIONAL.

Our questions are:

How intentional are you in raising your child?
What are you going to start today or do differently?
Do you know the Father’s mind for your Children?

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The Activation of the Measure of Grace

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The Apostles gave powerful testimonies about the resurrection of the Lord Jesus, and great measures of grace rested upon them all.”
‭‭Acts‬ ‭4:33‬ ‭TPT‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬
Grace is poured upon us by the Father and it is a great leverage that opens us up to possibilities beyond our human capacities. In several parts of the Scriptures, Grace, which is always available to us, is usually activated either by coming into the knowledge of a Truth or by an act of obedience to what advances God’s Kingdom agenda. In our focal scripture, Acts 4:33, great measures of grace was said to have rested upon the Apostles when they gave a powerful testimony about the resurrection of Christ Jesus. Reading through the book of Acts, we read the history of the oppositions the Apostles faced as they preached about Jesus’ resurrection. There were great resistance and persecutions but they didn’t relent nor gave into the opposition. They chose to stand by their convictions of Christ’s resurrection and went about narrating this testimony to all ears.

The kind of boldness and power with which they did this in the face of huge opposition was only made possible by the help of the Holy Spirit. That was the fulfillment of the promise of the Father as Jesus Christ mentioned to them and the expression of what would happen after the Holy Spirit comes upon them.

“But I promise you this—the Holy Spirit will come upon you and you will be seized with power. And you will be my messengers to Jerusalem, throughout Judea, the distant provinces—even to the remotest places on earth!” Acts‬ ‭1:8‬ ‭TPT‬‬‬‬
“And when they had prayed, the place where they were assembled together was shaken; and they were all filled with the Holy Spirit, and they spoke the word of God with boldness.” ‭‭Acts‬ ‭4:31‬ ‭NKJV‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬

What is evident in the Apostles is that they listened to Christ’s instruction to them and they obeyed. By their act of obedience, the promise of the Father was fulfilled which was the boldness with which they spoke. But it didn’t end there, measures of Grace was activated upon them in that process.

Friends, there’s a great measure of Grace that multiplies our supernatural abilities that is beyond the scope of our human limitations. This measure of Grace is activated by a chain of spiritual process as we see in all the scriptures referenced in this article and they include:

• A decision to follow Christ and listen to His instructions. Staying and doing the last instruction until He gives further instructions.
• Waiting on God for the fulfillment of the promise. Praying and steadfastly expecting what the Lord has promised without wavering.
• Leveraging the fulfillment of the promise to propagate the gospel. Testifying about Christ, declaring His Lordship and making all ears hear of His greatness.
There’s a multiplication of grace when we speak with the power and boldness that was supplied to us by the Holy Spirit. And the resultant effects of this, is that our scope of influence for Kingdom sake, gets wider.

May you and I receive great measures of Grace in Jesus name. Amen.

Writer:  Adenike D-light.

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Who am I Becoming?

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In a few weeks we will round up the year 2019 and welcome a brand new year 2020. Are you ready for another 365 days countdown? To prepare for the New Year, it is important to identify who you intend to Become. Let us go ahead to ask a few questions.
The questions to ask yourself are below:

Who do I want to become in 2020?

Why do I want to become the person I want to be?

What price am I willing to pay for the person I am becoming?

How do I ensure I become the person I aspire to be?

It is important to invest more time and energy into taking actions to INTENTIONALLY Grow. Become much more and challenge yourself for more.
1. Who do I want to become in 2020?
It is important to envision the end product of who you intend to be in 2020 and capture an image before your eyes. List out all the attributes and characteristics of who you intend to become. It shows you the end result, where you are and plan towards becoming the person you intend to become.
2. Why do I want to become the person I want to be?
The Why keeps you going when you want to give up the becoming process. It pushes you and just like an instructor in the gym it never permits you to give up but see the purpose of the entire journey to becoming.
3. What price am I willing to pay for the person I am becoming?
I love the scripture in Luke 14:28 (NLT) it says “But don’t begin until you count the cost. For who would begin construction of a building without first getting estimates and then checking to see if there is enough money to pay the bills?”
A lot of people pay lip service to Becoming and ignore the actual work, efforts and time that goes into becoming. It is highly important to be willing to make the sacrifices for the next level for the upgrade that leads to the individual you want to BECOME.

The scripture clearly states to count the cost before proceeding on the project. We need to identify and understand all that is involved in the Becoming process and commit to the entire process.
You need to sit down and count the cost of Becoming.

Are you willing to become?

Are you willing to put in the effort to becoming?

Are you willing to pay the price?

If your answers are all yes. Then sit down to a cup of tea and get a “Becoming Journal”. Identify and capture all that is required to become, identify all the sacrifices that are required to become and commit to paying the price no matter what. Ensure you articulate and capture your 2020 strategy before the New Year.

Wish you all the best and looking forward to becoming and upgrading a greater version in 2020.

 

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How I let go of Happiness and got Joy

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When I got married, I believed it was my husband’s duty to always make me happy. After all, I just got married to the love of my life and we should quickly get on with our “happily ever after”.
You see, I blamed him for all of my unhappiness and I became the proverbial “nagging wife”. The more I became unhappy, the more I put pressure on him. Poor guy! It was too much pressure to put on anyone. I mean, I could not make myself happy and here I was blaming someone else for not making me happy.
Eventually, I gave up on happiness. Or should I say I gave up on getting happiness from my husband. I then discovered a truth that is already in the Bible:
”And my God shall supply all your needs according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus.”
Phil 4:19 NKJV
God had already made a provision for me. I decided it was time to drop this pursuit of happiness and pick up joy.
Here are some of the things I did and still do:
1. Choose gratitude
Gratitude is easy when you have just got a financial windfall, or when you get an unexpected promotion. However, what about when things don’t go your way? Find gratitude in your challenges and commit to gratitude. Just like any other new habit, consistency is key. Don’t be picky about what to be thankful for, in all things give thanks.
2. Choose to be intentional
When any system lacks order or predictability, there is a gradual decline into a state of disorder. A marriage can descend into a state of disorder when certain things are left to chance. To prevent this, you must be intentional about saying “I love you” regularly, about taking time out (away from the kids and distractions) to be together, about having sex, about building intimacy and about communicating. Believe it or not, joy comes from predictability.
3. Pray together
Praying together builds intimacy; bringing your fears and hopes for the future to God strengthens your connection. One thing I learnt by praying with my husband is that he has his own struggles too and this in turn builds patience in me. Also, when you pray, you are turning the focus of your marriage back to God, you are acknowledging that He is your source of love, joy, resources etc.
4. Be liberal with compliments
I’m not talking about flattery here or being nice only when you want something, this should be about your husband.
When you genuinely compliment your spouse, your spouse’s self-confidence is boosted and makes you feel good too. You show that you appreciate them, that you notice all that they do for you and your spouse feels valued.
5. Be selfless
My marriage had become all about me and what I wanted. My wants were the focus. I didn’t even bother to find out what my husband’s needs were. This is contrary to Philippians 2:4 (TPT) where the Bible commands us to “Abandon every display of selfishness. Possess a greater concern for what matters to others instead of your own interests.”
Find out the needs (and wants) of your husband and go out of your way to fulfil them. You are not in a battle of wills with him and neither is he on earth to fulfil your will (Ouch). Your husband is on earth to fulfil the will of God.
6. Spend time with the Holy Spirit
Joy is a by-product of spending time with the Holy Spirit. Joy is a natural reaction to the work that God is doing in your life. The Holy Spirit literally cultivates character inside of you. This joy is supernatural in nature because you are not really doing anything to create it. You simply spend time with God and He works on and in you. The tendency to always find fault or be critical with your spouse dies naturally.

Your marriage cannot be about your happiness, your marriage is about God (That is a topic for another day). When you realize that God wants to reveal His kingdom through your marriage, you begin to think less about yourself and more about building a God-centric marriage.

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Waiting and Investing in Motherhood

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Dear Momma,

How your side? And your yard people, hope everyone’s doing well? Thank you for taking time to read this article. Following the prompting of the spirit, I want to encourage you. Scripture says in Isaiah 40:31 that “But those who wait for the LORD [who expect, look for, and hope in Him] Will gain new strength and renew their power; They will lift up their wings [and rise up close to God] like eagles [rising toward the sun]; They will run and not become weary, They will walk and not grow tired.”

Every time I read this scripture, I see that the Lord is mindful of our journey as Christians, and this includes activities our hands find doing. It is a proof that God wants to be there with us all the way, helping us succeed, as we rely on His strength, power and Spirit. The only thing we have to do is wait! That’s the only requirement – learning to wait on Him for renewal of strength. This strength isn’t even just about physical strength, it includes mental, spiritual and strength of character.

Motherhood means a lot to God because it is His avenue for raising generals for Himself. This makes it exclusively spiritual, so by no human strength shall any mother succeed. We need God to help us nurture these precious gifts in His way and His way alone. How do you describe your motherhood journey? Judge yourself not Sis, just do a sincere evaluation of what you’ve been relying on and if you depend on God for wisdom and direction concerning raising your child (ren). The Lord who gave you these gifts to raise as godly seeds, has qualified you for the assignment and has endued you with power and strength.

So when you feel the overwhelming pressure to perform as a mother, don’t lose it yet. Wait on God for renewal of strength. When you are at lost on what to do about your child’s academic abilities, don’t let go of your hope, wait on God. If you see a character flaw in your child, be reminded that he belongs to God, wait on Him. When you are about to make a major decision regarding your child, don’t forget that God has the volume of books written concerning him. Wait on the One who gave you such a precious being. May your strength not be small in the day of battle and may you be strong when you need to stand for your own. All you have to do is wait. The promise of waiting is that you will mount up with wings as eagles.

Eagles soar above all else. Imagine you soaring above everything that wants to slow you down or suppress you; think about you soaring above challenges that belabor every other mother, just because you chose to wait on God for strength.

As you practice the art of waiting on God as a mother, investing is another art you must embrace and be conscious of. Investing must be a deliberate lifestyle of a mother who sees her children as godly seeds. She will invest into their future with prayers, positive words, scripture-inspired confessions etc. I encourage you not to get carried away by life demands to the end that you forget the investing part of your motherhood. While it is called today, there would be always be a tomorrow. Tomorrow happens happily to those who expect some positive outcomes of their deliberate acts of yesterday.

Dear Mama, God’s got you and He will never leave you. In the midst of life bustling, you can never miss it waiting on God! So wait. You have an assurance of a beautiful tomorrow in God for your children if you invest today. So, invest.

Grace and peace be multiplied to you and I.

Writer: Adenike D-light

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Ready for Battle? Put on the Whole armour of God (1)

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I love visiting my niece and nephew. One of the privileges of being an aunty is that I get to enjoy their company for a short period of time and then leave them with their parents (Just kidding!!)
One of the games they love to play with me is the “Hug attack”. It’s not so much a game as being smothered with hugs and kisses on all sides which I enjoy but act like I don’t. During these sneak hug attacks, my niece and nephew come up with ingenious ways to discover my weakest spot and I try to anticipate their plans and thwart them (most times, unsuccessfully). I remembered these sneak attacks when I was preparing to write this article. Ephesians 6:10-18 is not unfamiliar to many of us. It has been the subject of many sermons at our local church assemblies, school fellowships and family prayer meetings.
However, more than ever before, it has become imperative that we go back to this scripture and make sure we apply its principles to our lives so that we are indeed battle-ready. As Ephesians 6:12 states, the battle is not against flesh and blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world and against mighty power and evil spirits in the heavenly places.
Why is it important to put on the whole armor of God?
Eph 6: 11 and 13 sets out the importance of wearing the armor. It is important for us as Christians going into battle to wear the armor to help us stand firm against all the strategies of the devil. It is important so that we are able to resist the enemy in the time of evil. So that, at the end of the day after the dust settles, when the battle is over, we are the last man/woman standing.
Priscilla Shirer, in her devotional “Armor of God” explained that one of the enemy’s strategy in this war is to distract us so that he can blindside us. The devil does not indiscriminately choose his assault weapons when attacking us in battle. His strategy is tailor-made to attack our tendencies, habits, deepest fears and weaknesses. His attacks are thus targeted specifically at these ‘weak’ spots. Little wonder that we find ourselves struggling with sin and temptations – the devil would not tempt a person who has a love of money problem with sexual temptations, neither would he tempt a person with forgiveness issues with money. His main goal is to sidetrack our attention by setting any number of internal fires ablaze in our lives – insecurity, intimidation, anxiety, fear, worry or busyness. His intention is to confuse and make us lose focus while he sneaks up from behind, like my niece and nephew plan to do during their sneak hug attacks.
So, how can we be battle ready for these sneak attacks by the devil? By putting on the whole armor of God. Today, I will be looking at the belt of truth and the breastplate of righteousness.
When you think about a belt, what comes to mind? Honestly, I would immediately think of a fashion accessory that I use to beautify my dress or to hold up my jeans in place. However, the Roman soldier’s belt was more akin to a girdle. Most scholars agree that the belt, more than any other piece of the soldier’s clothing or equipment, with its intricate décor and elaborate buckles, distinguished a solder from a civilian. The belt was a strategic, primary focal point of the Roman soldier’s outfit and we would soon see why this was so.
The belt – a sturdy leather girdle – was made to reach around the torso, providing the essential support which he needed while performing the quick demanding movements of war.
Why was the belt referred to as the belt of truth? The devil’s top strategy is deploying lies and deception. He is an expert at shading reality with enticing and alluring colors, seducing us away from black & white principles – A good example is the lie he sells about issues such as pre-marital intimacy. The devil is a professional at propagating fantasies and his packaging is so clever that unless you know what is true – and really know it at your core – you easily fall prey to his ploys.
Truth – God’s opinion on any matter – is our standard as Christians. Truth is our support, Truth is our backbone. Everything hinges upon the truth. “Ye shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free (John 8:32)” Truth provides us with the core support needed in the middle of a spiritual warfare.
Next up – the breastplate of righteousness. For a Roman soldier, the breastplate protected some of the most important parts of the body – the heart, lungs and other organs necessary for life. The breastplate was made of bronze or chain mail and it was fitted with loops or buckles that attached it to the belt. Yes, you read that right – the belt helped keep the breastplate in place. If the belt was loosened, the breastplate slipped right off.
The breastplate was very important to keeping the soldier alive – so is righteousness for a Christian. Righteousness means right standing with God. It means living our lives in a way that is honorable to God. To put on the breastplate of righteousness, we need to know what God’s word says. We need to feed on the Word until it becomes part of us. And, when the trials and temptations come, we can make informed decisions based on the Word.
The belt of truth and the breastplate of righteousness are intricately linked together, and rightly so. To put on the breastplate of righteousness, we must first have the belt of truth firmly in place. Without truth, our righteousness is simply an exercise in vain attempt to impress God – legalese or self-condemnation, just like the Pharisees or Sadducees. We wear the breastplate of righteousness by obeying God and allowing him to work in us. By making him and his ways our dwelling place and seeking God above everything else, we live a righteous life.
When we wear the breastplate of righteousness and the belt of truth correctly, we develop a purity of heart that translates into the way we live our lives. We find ourselves putting into practice what we believe in our hearts. As our lives become more in line with the Word of God, more Christ-like, we make righteous choices which protects us from further temptation and deception by the devil.

Writer:  Tomilola Adebiyi

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WHAT IS IN YOUR HANDS

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It’s Monday again, yes!
For some people, it is exciting to wake up on Monday mornings to pursue their passion – that is, what ticks their heart and gives them a sense of fulfilment- while for others, Monday mornings come with trepidation – they wake up thinking “Oh No! why so fast?”
When you do what you love and enjoy, every day is a Monday, it’s all the same. That sense of knowing that what you do makes a difference, and every little action takes you closer to achieving your life aspirations and biggest dreams. But are we all there yet? Do we all get that tingling feeling of excitement on Monday morning? Are you in that place where you rule your world and understand how you fit into the big picture? Or that your efforts, small or great, counts and goes a long way? Do you experience the pure joy and delight of knowing that you are impacting your world with your ideas, work and diligence? This is something we all desire.
How do you change the narrative from feeling sick when it’s Sunday night because you have to resume at the office in the morning because you are doing something that drains the life out of you or something which you find no pleasure doing?
Let’s talk about a few things to help you wake up better on a Monday morning if you didn’t like it before now 
1. The Power of Choice
You may not love what you do but you have the power to make the choice to enjoy it even as you work towards your dream role or assignment.
One of the greatest capabilities of man is in making choices. You may not be able to help what people do to you but you have control over how you react and respond to them. You may have little or no control over the circumstances of life thrown on your path but you have the power to decide how it would shape you. You may not have total control over your current job – but you certainly have control over how you chose to do it, so what would your choice be? Will you choose to be sad about a job you cannot change immediately? or Will you choose to make the best of your time without wasting any time on negative emotions and feelings that drain you? Make the right choice!
2. What do You Have?
Many people hate their jobs because they do not feel they have what it takes to excel at their roles. However, God created each one of us in His image with unique capabilities and skills. We spend time looking at others with skillsets that do not come naturally to us and feel inadequate. What we should be doing is asking ourselves the question, “what skills do I have and how can I maximize it in my present role?”.
I currently work as a Sales Person and while i do not enjoy sales at all, I do love interacting with people and building valuable relationships. I have been able to focus on my natural strength of making friends easily to build my clientele and as a result of my excellent relationship-building skills, I easily get referrals to new prospects in addition to guaranteed repeat business. If you do look deeply inside you, there is something you possess that you can turn into your advantage at your current job.
3. Seek to Always Add Value
There is a popular saying that to lift your spirit, find someone who needs lifting and lend a helping hand, you automatically feel lifted too. This is a tried and tested principle. In your current role, find ways to add value to others, to the work, to the process, to everything around you. Do not stay focused on yourself or your dislike for the job/assignment, that just gives you a bad attitude.
When you add value always however, you set yourself up for recognition and upliftment. I particularly love the story of Joseph and he is one of my favorite male Bible Characters, coming closely after David and Daniel .
So what’s so special about Joseph? Here was a young lad who was sold into slavery at the tender age of 17, far away from home or any form of family, a long distance away from his culture and belief. It was enough for him to be lost and forgotten in history but not Joseph. He brought so much value that he was put in charge of everything in Potiphar’s house – his Egyptian Master. Being a slave couldn’t have been pleasant, especially being a slave hundreds of miles away from home with no familiar face or thing; in a country filled with strange gods and customs, strange meals, strange clothing and different way of life. Nevertheless, Joseph was too valuable to be ignored. Potiphar must have had other servants and slaves, even those much older and maybe with better years of experience in slavery  (no pun intended actually) but you get my drift. He was a Value adder (new word alert!). Did Joseph want to be sold into slavery? He sure didn’t. He did not choose to be a slave but that was where he was, and he made good use of the opportunity by adding value.
Remember when Pharaoh had a dream and needed interpretation of his dreams? That was when the butler (whom Joseph had also interpreted his dreams to while in prison) remembered Joseph and told Pharaoh about him. Joseph was summoned from prison. All he had to do was interpret the dream but Joseph with his attitude of being a Value-adder, went on to provide Pharaoh with a solution to the problem highlighted by the dream. He not only interpreted the dream with the help of God’s Spirit but further proffered solution to a very clear and imminent challenge of famine. So you see, solving problems especially when you didn’t create them is adding value. I am certain that was what set Joseph apart even in Potiphar’s house. Even though he did not choose to be a slave yet by adding value constantly everywhere he went, in due time he was elevated.
So dear reader, you may not be where you really want to be however you can make good use of where you are now as you chart the course to where you want to go. Use your choices positively and focus on things that give you energy and make you happy, start from where you are – look inwards and find that one thing that is unique to you, I am certain you will find a way to apply it to your current role to make your output better and erase your feeling of inadequacy; lastly cultivate the habit of adding value by being a problem solver not a problem creator – be the one with a solution.
God bless you.
Writer:   Ademorayo Apara

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Wisdom: The Real Beauty

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In the book of Esther, Queen Vashti is described as a very beautiful woman. She was married to King Xerxes who organized a banquet in the third year of his reign. This means Queen Vashti also had only been queen for about three years too. She too gave a banquet for the women at the palace to celebrate the third year anniversary.
While in this celebratory mood, the King ordered Queen Vashti to come dressed in her royal apparel with her crown to ‘show case’ her beauty. But the Queen refused.
My initial conclusion when thinking about this singular action of Queen Vashti was that she was full of pride. But on a closer look, I began to see her action from a different angle – the Queen may have been trying to ‘caution’ the King on his excesses. Remember that the King had earlier shown off his riches, his kingdom in all its glory, and the honor of his excellent majesty during the celebration. In fact, the King displayed his vast wealth over 180 days, one of the longest displays of wealth described in the Bible.
In fairness to the Queen, (1) she could have been stressed out (2) she may have been uncomfortable with the arrogance being displaced by her husband (3) she may have been busy with the women in the palace whom she was hosting at her own banquet and (4) she may have felt embarrassed or angered that seven eunuchs were sent to bring her.
Upon a closer look, Queen Vashti had some level of freedom given to her by her husband. She was the women leader and was granted access to the kingdom’s resources.
Dear sister, any woman whose husband supports and gives her the freedom to be who God wants her to be, who also has access to her husband’s resources – time and money – is highly favored.
Wisdom has built her house, she hath hewn out her seven pillars.
For the purpose of this write up, I will like to outline two lessons I learnt from the ‘home’ of Queen Vashti.
1. There is no excuse that can justify disobeying, correcting, confronting and embarrassing one’s husband in public. Imagine if Queen Esther had publicly confronted the King about Haman’s plan just because she was under pressure, or because of the urgency the matter required.
Instead, she wisely sought a private moment with the King by inviting him and Haman to a private banquet. A wise woman discusses issues with her husband in private.

2. It is important to dress beautifully for your husband. The same royal robes that Queen Vashti refused to wear following her husband’s orders were worn by Esther but she achieved a different result. Perhaps the King would have given Vashti an open check if she had worn her royal robes. Let us put on our royal robes, sisters.

Hmm, the two women were described as beauty to behold but what made the difference was WISDOM! I pray that we will embrace wisdom in dealing with our husbands, in Jesus name.

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